This is Mikae. My preferred pronouns are she/her/hers. I am mixed Chinese/White American.

janefoster:

basically my life can be summed up in alternating periods of Linda Belcher’s “Alriiiiight!” and Bob Belcher’s “Oh my god”

You want to say Hi to the cute girl on the subway. How will she react? Fortunately, I can tell you with some certainty, because she’s already sending messages to you. Looking out the window, reading a book, working on a computer, arms folded across chest, body away from you = do not disturb. So, y’know, don’t disturb her. Really. Even to say that you like her hair, shoes, or book. A compliment is not always a reason for women to smile and say thank you. You are a threat, remember? You are Schrödinger’s Rapist. Don’t assume that whatever you have to say will win her over with charm or flattery. Believe what she’s signaling, and back off.

If you speak, and she responds in a monosyllabic way without looking at you, she’s saying, “I don’t want to be rude, but please leave me alone.” You don’t know why. It could be “Please leave me alone because I am trying to memorize Beowulf.” It could be “Please leave me alone because you are a scary, scary man with breath like a water buffalo.” It could be “Please leave me alone because I am planning my assassination of a major geopolitical figure and I will have to kill you if you are able to recognize me and blow my cover.”

On the other hand, if she is turned towards you, making eye contact, and she responds in a friendly and talkative manner when you speak to her, you are getting a green light. You can continue the conversation until you start getting signals to back off.

The fourth point: If you fail to respect what women say, you label yourself a problem.

There’s a man with whom I went out on a single date—afternoon coffee, for one hour by the clock—on July 25th. In the two days after the date, he sent me about fifteen e-mails, scolding me for non-responsiveness. I e-mailed him back, saying, “Look, this is a disproportionate response to a single date. You are making me uncomfortable. Do not contact me again.” It is now October 7th. Does he still e-mail?

Yeah. He does. About every two weeks.

This man scores higher on the threat level scale than Man with the Cockroach Tattoos. (Who, after all, is guilty of nothing more than terrifying bad taste.) You see, Mr. E-mail has made it clear that he ignores what I say when he wants something from me. Now, I don’t know if he is an actual rapist, and I sincerely hope he’s not. But he is certainly Schrödinger’s Rapist, and this particular Schrödinger’s Rapist has a probability ratio greater than one in sixty. Because a man who ignores a woman’s NO in a non-sexual setting is more likely to ignore NO in a sexual setting, as well.

So if you speak to a woman who is otherwise occupied, you’re sending a subtle message. It is that your desire to interact trumps her right to be left alone. If you pursue a conversation when she’s tried to cut it off, you send a message. It is that your desire to speak trumps her right to be left alone. And each of those messages indicates that you believe your desires are a legitimate reason to override her rights.

For women, who are watching you very closely to determine how much of a threat you are, this is an important piece of data.

an excerpt from Phaedra Starling’s “Schrödinger’s Rapist: or a guy’s guide to approaching strange women without being maced” (via lostgrrrls)

HOLY FUCK THE TRUTH.

Can every one of my male followers read this? And please, before you get defensive (“I would never rape anyone!”) keep in mind, women being afraid of Shrodinger’s Rapists (oh my god i still can’t get over the encompassing brilliance of this phrase) is a conditioned, learned response from being immersed in rape culture and the evolution of sexism and sexual violence in our society from the day we’re born. And unfortunately, it’s very difficult to unlearn without the efforts of all genders to dismantle it. Which is where you come in.

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It’s also just rude and disrespectful to patently ignore what someone has told you regarding their personal space, body, and time. Get a clue.

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I will always reblog this. Always.

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So if you speak to a woman who is otherwise occupied, you’re sending a subtle message. It is that your desire to interact trumps her right to be left alone.

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yes

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(Source: lostgrrrls)

hisnamewaswells:

domestic violence somehow keeps happening

like, literally nobody has to explain why fucking shooting your wife is the wrong thing to do, it’s not a controversial issue

or, i mean, it doesn’t make sense for a guy who shot his wife to not be sentenced appropriately for the murder he committed

it also doesn’t make sense for whatever, like, dudes in upper nfl management or whatever watched a video of one of their employees punching his fiancee unconscious and they were just like “ok”

i mean, it doesn’t make sense, but the entities responsible for reassuring men that they can basically act with impunity keep existing, so, y’know

it’s, like, can you imagine explaining this to an alien?

"so romantic relationships are a mutually beneficial arrangement between two emotionally intimate people to care for and support each other, but sometimes, instead of those things, men murder their partners for no reason, and society at large is apparently ok with this"

airbenderedacted:

Tfeneral-gaggot:

cheesyfiestafuck:

getting caught smoking weed under a parachute

I WAS NOT EXPECTING THAT MANY PEOPLE TO RUN OUT OF THE PARACHUTE

THAT GUY’S LAUGH

kungfusnowqueen:

be critical of Anita Sarkeesian all you want but if the fact that she had to cancel a speech at a college because a student threatened a mass shooting isn’t a huge red flag to you about how very much alive misogyny is then you need to get the fuck out of my face

mugglebornheadcanon:

1023. Muggleborns that use their divination skills to write accurate horoscopes for their friends and eventually muggle magazines.

(Source: absintalsem)

supernatural-tardis:

i had a crush on this guy and i decided to pull a Pavlov on him by offering him whenever i saw him  this brand of candy he seemed to really like and after a while whenever he saw me he got excited for a second then you could see his expression shift to wondering the why the hell was he so happy to see me and i swear it was the evilest thing but also the most hilarious i made a guy like me by conditioning him into associating me to a candy he liked

makanidotdot:

ep 3 doodles

i just wanna draw tiny snarky lil tophs forever and ever she is so freaking perfect

drew this one back in book 3, posting because relevance

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broadway-aradia:

fangirltothefullest:

broadway-aradia:

i want an interracial disney couple that doesn’t get turned into frogs for the whole movie…

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And let’s not forget she’s a queen with access to godlike powers and he’s a geek who’s an excellent Linguist.

YES THIS ONE IS GREAT THANK YOU

i’m always talking about how bitches always forget atlantis

and then i forget atlantis

(Source: seven-lilies)

teachytv:

hello friends

"fuckboy" is AAVE

us white people have no business using it

it has nothing to do with the “skeleton war” meme

it is not a transphobic slur (this is an especially baffling claim)

lets stop using it for ourselves and stop relating it to skeletons ok

thank you